Feb
18
OLDER WOMAN DATING A YOUNGER MAN?
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Candy asked:
I am eleven years comparison than my fiance. I was in an unfortunate attribute final year and to my rescue a 21yr old came in to my life. We fell in love right divided and 7 mos after he asked me to wed him. He is so clinging to me. I have had a small issues with myself. I have seen the pleasing immature girls he has antiquated in the past and one critical attribute he has ever had he still keeps small things as reminders. I am tasteful as well but could lose 30lbs. I keep reminding him which I am not removing any younger and what if one day he changes his mind or ends up intrigue on me. Don't get me wrong, he is a unequivocally grown up 22yr old with a lot of self carry out hold it or not. I ask him because he loves me and what is it which held his captivate in the initial place. Instead of enjoying my attribute I find myself worrying and pulling him away. We have been suspect to get tied together in Oct at slightest which is the plan. My subject is tho, can this attribute unequivocally work or does love know no boundaries?
I am eleven years comparison than my fiance. I was in an unfortunate attribute final year and to my rescue a 21yr old came in to my life. We fell in love right divided and 7 mos after he asked me to wed him. He is so clinging to me. I have had a small issues with myself. I have seen the pleasing immature girls he has antiquated in the past and one critical attribute he has ever had he still keeps small things as reminders. I am tasteful as well but could lose 30lbs. I keep reminding him which I am not removing any younger and what if one day he changes his mind or ends up intrigue on me. Don't get me wrong, he is a unequivocally grown up 22yr old with a lot of self carry out hold it or not. I ask him because he loves me and what is it which held his captivate in the initial place. Instead of enjoying my attribute I find myself worrying and pulling him away. We have been suspect to get tied together in Oct at slightest which is the plan. My subject is tho, can this attribute unequivocally work or does love know no boundaries?
8 Comments
February 22nd, 2012 at 6:30 am
my mom is 12 yrs older than my step-dad, and they have been married for almost 8 years.
they couldnt be any happier than they are now.
February 25th, 2012 at 5:01 pm
i see no problem with it, Van gogh married a girl 21 years older than him.
But that WAS back in the old days././……
best of luck
February 27th, 2012 at 6:40 pm
Of course it can work!
(and you know age doesn't change anything in the cheating area : they do it just as well at 22 as 32 or 42… ;-).
Just be sure to discuss all the "big" details beforehand, like : does he want children - and do you?
February 28th, 2012 at 12:21 pm
It can work just fine if you both love each other. You're both adults and he is old enough to know his own mind.
If you continually bring up the age difference, worry about weight gain, or voice suspicion that he may cheat on you some day with a younger woman, however, you may be creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. If it's good, it's good. Let it be.
March 1st, 2012 at 9:29 am
If you find yourself "worrying and pushing him away" then, I would suggest that you don't get marry just yet, live together as roommates and see how it works …age differences have nothing to do with love. It's each individual personality and how compatible you are, how you get along living under the same roof. You have mentioned sevaral issues here that are not indication of a happy relationship unless you and your BF talk about them and see where you two stand. Better wait and see what happens before you commit to another marriage.
March 4th, 2012 at 12:44 am
As long as you both love each other, then don't worry about the relationship not working.
Don't push him away either. His past is gone, and you are his present and sounds like the future too.
Good luck with everything!
March 5th, 2012 at 4:16 pm
Yes, it can work. I love women older than myself. When I was 16-18 I was with 5 women over 40 and through my life I have primarily dated older women. I loved the challenge. Also, there was nowhere near the drama as with girls just over 18. More mature women know what they want and are generally not into head games and stupid crap, or at least you hope they have grown out of that. I have found the sex and foreplay with a more mature woman much more passionate than with a girl just over 18. It can work and there is nothing that excites me more than to see a mature, confident, and natural women. Best of luck.
March 7th, 2012 at 4:05 am
I met a couple this week end whose age difference is similar to yours. They are very happy. He is devoted to her. He is drop dead gorgeous and she is not plus has the same weight situation as you. If it works, don't sabotage it with your insecurities…ENJOY…