MATURE ANSWERS FROM GENTLEMEN PLEASE, A MAN I'M DATING SEEMS TO HAVE 2 FACES?
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He's happy and effusive and loose with alternative people. He's fun and funny. He can be wanton at times but he's a GUY. y'know and that's cool with me. Lately he's not so crude. He's really clever about what he says to me and he's not loose when we have been alone together. He's roughly fearful of me or my perspective of him. He jumps when I contend I do not similar to something or if I frown.
I find zero wrong with him at all. He's honeyed and kind and attentive. But I instruct he would relax similar to he does with his friends. I can't relax when I'm with him since he's so stiff. I discuss it him which I similar to him and I speak about whatever to try to put him at ease. But it's not working. When we're not together, he tells me he misses me.
I can't figure out what's going on with him. It's similar to he's 2 people. One man with his friends and an additional man with me. What is his deal?
I haven't told him which I love him - yet. I'm watchful until I am certain about my feelings. He told me which I interest to him since of my giving and peaceful soul. We have told each alternative which we caring for each other. And I show it.
6 Comments
November 9th, 2010 at 9:22 pm
maybe he had a bad experience before; and now he is afraid to lose you!
@ least the face he is showing you is not the abusive , controlling type
reassure him , i bet he has a traumatic experience, please show him love and kindness
November 12th, 2010 at 2:35 am
It's easy if you mess you with your friends, but not so cool if it's with a gal especially one who you are serious about. He may even see you as a little out of his league so he's trying to play it super cool with you. Or sometimes someone says something to how we are acting trying to help and we blow it anyway. But talking with him should have done it and if it doesn't after another go at it I'm lost as to what else to say.
November 14th, 2010 at 10:16 am
sounds like he is bi-polar. have him go checked out by a doctor.
November 15th, 2010 at 2:33 pm
The fear of being cornered. Obviously you have told him you loved him.
November 17th, 2010 at 12:23 pm
he sounds insecure about himself, and fears if u really knew him u would leave him.
November 20th, 2010 at 12:46 pm
Well I guess he is insecure of losing you and he truly wants you. He is doing all this, based on your recent behavior or conversation with him about your personal life (It might have occurred also when you guys had a little small fight). So, now whatever he is doing is just to build a positive impression about himself for you so that everything looks right to you about him. You need to talk to him about your problem openly and clearly till both of you understand the root cause of it. And try to spend time with him when he is with his friends more and you relax first and be free n frank so that a comfort zone is build for him to breath in & out.