WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT THIS STORY: I AM A VERY PRETTY WOMAN ABOVE 30 BELOW 35. I HAVE A FULL TIME JOB AND ?
Bygo to propagandize for the final year of my masters grade at a internal university. I live on my own, rent an apartment, own a small car and I am unequivocally independent. Have most friends and I am unequivocally a good girl, you could call me a good catch… lol.
I am here in the U.S. with a work visa. I am right away requesting for a immature label but things have been removing difficult as with this brand new law, my employer and my profession have been carrying a tough time with this.
I assimilate which if worse comes to worse I will leave the U.S. in a year. I know it would be o.k. I have smashing parents, both have been profesionals and brothers who have been graduating from colleges too. I have over there an overwhelming lengthened famiily in my home nation and I will find a job, I will find complacency wherever I have to be.
Sometimes I do get stressed out about this incident of not meaningful what is going to happen, but afterwards I know all will be ok as it has regularly been.
I am even formulation to get a post connoisseur module in Europe if I have to leave US so I can get some-more knowledge and a improved preparation prior to going behind home (south america).
But I have a tough time bargain since my beloved of 8 months right away ( we know each alternative for 4 years antiquated behind in 2004, for 9 months but pennyless up), doesn't speak about this or says anything. I told him once or twice how the understanding is. But is similar to is not his problem, which I know is not but still…
He says he loves me and all which and I know he says to his friends which we would get tied together in a integrate of years if things work out (he doesnt discuss it me this, I usually over listened this twice).
But how does he devise on removing tied together in a coupld of years WHEN I MAY NOT EVEN BE HERE IN A YEAR???
I find this odd, and do not know what to do? I do not wish to move this up, since he might think I wish to get tied together with him for writings or which i am pulling him towards something he is not ready for, but since is he you do this?
Sometimes I consternation , may be i wish him to assistance me since yes it would be cheaper, faster and simpler and we love each alternative anyways… but I do not wish to think similar to which since it is not function which way, but I do not know if he is being meant for at slightest not charity to help.
Or he is being grown up for separating both things and being transparent on his feelings.
Cindra D: I will try to respectfully residence your comment: He is not my free ride, I have roughly as most income as him now. I will have some-more than him when I connoisseur or in a couple of years.
If I longed for to wed for writings I will do it right away or would have finished it approach before.
I am the hottest chicky he has antiquated and I have explanation of it. It is engaging your point about "hot babes", appreciate God he likes some-more the total package as conflicting to a shoal lady or chick as you call them… (so sexist).
I do not even know if I wish to stay here … Please review improved subsequent time. I have alternative skeleton as post Graduate propagandize (u know what which is) in France or Belgium or going behind to a good family in my home country! who i love to death.
Here he is roughly the usually reason for me to stay, I hatred the food, cold weather, pour out on things, loneliness, and all being "big".
9 Comments
October 18th, 2010 at 11:04 am
If he won't marry you, I will.
October 21st, 2010 at 1:28 pm
it may be too diffcult to discuss. and why worry abuot it now, if you don't know if you're leaving or staying.
i know that my fiance always talks about "what ifs" like if he goes on tour w/ his band and is not going to be home for a while. i don't ever really talk about it because i find it upsetting. and why get upset if that's not the current situation. i'm sure if you wind up being deported, he'll be very upset and sad. THEN he'll talk about it. but for now, why bother.
October 22nd, 2010 at 9:12 am
Does he know your plans? If he doesn't, make sure he does. I bet that will speed him up. You are a good catch.
If he does know them, maybe he wants to go to Europe with you. I don't know. He is a little wishy washy and not practical. Maybe he'll change his tune as the time gets closer.
October 22nd, 2010 at 2:03 pm
He sounds like an insensitive and lazy dork who's completely ignoring the real issue that you could be gone soon. Find a real man, whether that's in the US or in South America.
You might be a real catch, he is not. Good luck.
October 23rd, 2010 at 12:04 am
You said you could call me a good catch, but your not catching your man, he's getting laid and hauling away from you…sounds like to me he used you and your going to need education in keeping a man down and your good looks is not rocking, but a tush will talk..capiche!
October 25th, 2010 at 9:13 pm
Something no college will ever teach you; men say the supidest thing at the most terrible time to just say it for no apparent reason. To me hes jealous of your achievements and has no idea what he wants. If he truly loves you as he says he does then he would be doing everything to keep you here with him or move with you if this country doesnt want you here. A gut feeling tells me you can do better. Too many mixed feelings here wont make a good marriage so move on and do whats best for you and the rest will take care of itself. Good luck
October 25th, 2010 at 10:43 pm
It's really hard. He's shying away from commitment. It's more complicated than the typical guy won't commit thing.
He doesn't want to have his heart broken.
Right now, things are easy (which is a more typical guy thing) and making things not easy doesn't seem like it will bring about any change for the better: it's not going to resolve your legal status and it will make him frustrated–and both of you don't need to be frustrated.
Not having a good atmosphere to commit is an unwanted luxury. He's being neither mature or immature. Neither are you. It's just the reality of something that is impossible.
It sounds like a hard space to enter into a more intimate stage where you can talk about marriage without suspicion of the marriage-for-legal status question.
Try to navigate it. It may make no difference. Chances are that he has accepted that you will have to leave. He may also be ready to end the uncertainty and would rather part with love than break up. Who knows?
One question at a time.
October 27th, 2010 at 3:36 pm
if he is not willing to help you then he doesn't love you as much as he says he does. so get a real man. and good luck
October 30th, 2010 at 11:38 pm
He's not ready to marry, period. That in itself speaks volumes about his feelings for you. And, you should not be looking to him as a free ride into the U.S. Perhaps he sees you as being manipulative. Your mentioning of how great of a catch you are suggests that you might be overvaluing yourself. American men can get alot of hot babes.
Either way, he's not ready to get down on bended knee.