May
14
THIS QUESTION IS FOR LADY'S ONLY. IT'S A DATING QUESTION?
By
Mr.Cool asked:
I'm 38 years old and haven't antiquated for 5 years since I got sleepy of caving in to which foolish diversion multitude instituted about the do's & don'ts of dating. I did utterly a bit of dating in my know-it all 20's and from my experiences, grown a great clarity of peculiarity and ambience for what sort of lady I favourite and as I entered my 30's, grew intensely resourceful at whom I chose as well date which meant it became some-more and some-more formidable to find a great companion. So, instead of perplexing so tough as I so energetically used to do, I simply stoped seeking and gave up dating . This was essentially full of health for me and helped me unequivocally concentration on my personal hold up and aloud for some-more time to be prolific with my work . But there's still which blank element…my companion. I not long ago went on 3 opposite dates (my age) and all 3 of them had a informed pattern. The 3 smart, mature, obliged and but a doubt-beautiful women, all played those old foolish hard-to get games after the fact. One told me I called as well soon.
I'm 38 years old and haven't antiquated for 5 years since I got sleepy of caving in to which foolish diversion multitude instituted about the do's & don'ts of dating. I did utterly a bit of dating in my know-it all 20's and from my experiences, grown a great clarity of peculiarity and ambience for what sort of lady I favourite and as I entered my 30's, grew intensely resourceful at whom I chose as well date which meant it became some-more and some-more formidable to find a great companion. So, instead of perplexing so tough as I so energetically used to do, I simply stoped seeking and gave up dating . This was essentially full of health for me and helped me unequivocally concentration on my personal hold up and aloud for some-more time to be prolific with my work . But there's still which blank element…my companion. I not long ago went on 3 opposite dates (my age) and all 3 of them had a informed pattern. The 3 smart, mature, obliged and but a doubt-beautiful women, all played those old foolish hard-to get games after the fact. One told me I called as well soon.
12 Comments
May 15th, 2010 at 8:58 am
Is there a question in this mess?
May 16th, 2010 at 11:35 pm
I don't understand. What's the question?
May 17th, 2010 at 5:40 am
I've had to kiss ALOT of frogs before i found my prince.Please don't ever give up.You are still very young.
May 18th, 2010 at 7:53 pm
whats the question ?
May 21st, 2010 at 1:57 am
date girls you wouldnt normally date. youre still at your old patterns of picking the wrong girls most likely
May 22nd, 2010 at 4:53 pm
Follow this rule and you will be ok…ACT like you dont give a shit…then act like you do…the confusion will make her want to jump your bones…you really got to act like you dont need them…don't initiate nothing…call a week later
May 25th, 2010 at 2:19 pm
thats because you are looking for what you consider to be your ideal woman. you have spent all this time thinking and planning and think because you have such a logical approach that you are going to get it just right, sorry-love dont work like that, compatability doesnt come like that either. Love wont have read your "rule book" and will come when you least expect it from someone probably completely random. you are trying too hard, you cannot possibly expect to have a completely natural relationship with anyone when all your needs, wants and expectations are so contrived. are you aware of the word "fun?" learn to relax and go with the flow, life will be so much better and so will your chances of meeting someone & starting a sustainable relationship
May 27th, 2010 at 5:50 am
i'm assuming your question is why do these women play games? well, i was convinced numerous times by my girl friends to play such games with the men that i was interested in. any time i followed their advice, it always screwed me over. but also when i showed interest in a guy without playing games, then he would back away and say that he felt i wanted something serious. so it's a toss up. not all women play games, and i've been told by those i know who are happily married, that once you meet the one for you, none of those games are an issue because you will both be yourselves around each other, will act completely natural, have similar feelings, and will be able to express them freely. so my advice, keep searching, but not too hard. the right one will come some day.
and as an addendum, i'd like to disagree with the person below me. there is a special person out there for you, made to fit your standards. don't ever lower them because you give up hope. of course everyone has their flaws, but if there are fundamental qualities that you must find in a lifelong partner, then so be it. you're find it!
May 30th, 2010 at 4:50 am
ok Todd, time to stop chewing on the bitter root and start getting real here.
It isn't the women, it's you. Can you BE any more picky, anal & judgemental? You go on one date and you think you have them all figured out huh?
Women in their 30's are a lot more cautious about dating. They have a right to take some control…you don't seem to be able to handle that too well. A womancan't keep her options open after she meets you?
You have become so "selective" you won't let anyone in…did you not learn that there are no princesses and you don't get to live happily ever after? That human being's have flaws…and you kinda have to bend a little?
Your five year hiatus didn't help you, it harmed you…stop pushing for perfection…it doesn't exisit.
June 2nd, 2010 at 1:51 pm
I'm not sure exactly what the question is, but I will try to give you some advice.
Just continue to do what you're doing. Focus on you. Focus on your career and your passions. The right woman will come to you. It's unfortunate that they keep playing games, but do not let that discourage you!
Keep that positive energy inside and it will be reflected on the outside. That energy will attract another hopeful soul that you'll find love within.
June 3rd, 2010 at 11:07 pm
Only three different ladies and you are upset already? Give it time. As long as it takes time. At your age (and please I am not calling you old by any means) the women you should be dating know their biological clock is ticking and shouldn't play so hard to get. Maybe these picky chicks were divorced, already had children, or are looking for Brad Pitt. Be patient and don't give up. There are soooo many women out there that would love to go out with a man that had no ex wife or child support to pay. I would consider an on line dating service. If you are religious the single ladies outnumber the men ten to one. Keep your eyes open and don't just look for the ones who look like Pamela Anderson. Plain ladies have a lot to offer too if one takes the time to look inside.
June 5th, 2010 at 8:02 pm
Not trying at all is a failure enough so don't give up..
the best is yet to come!!