I FEEL A BIT OUT OF PLACE. (ADULT QUESTION, ONLY ADULTS PLEASE)?
ByI'm twenty-five and I've been on a outing in SE Middle East for the past 2 weeks. I visited my crony which I used to go to highschool with which lives here right away and he right away has a solid partner here.
He told me which he's slept with twenty-two girls in the past 2 years here and when I went to the bar with him, there were a total garland of unfamiliar guys perplexing to collect up the internal women. I'm not a eremite male by any equates to but I do be concerned a bit about disease. Later in the week he asked me how most girls I had been with and I gave him the truth: 2. I have antiquated girls for 2, 3, and 2.5 years in the past 7.5 years and I've slept with 2 in which time.
I told him which infrequently I only instruct I had a lady to cuddle and which even yet I cruise myself a unequivocally passionate person, I felt similar to I only longed for to be close to one similar to that. He looked at me similar to I was friggen crazy. I only longed for everybody else's (mature) perspective on the matter.
Just to clarify, I think sex is a good thought but I customarily wish to know the chairman first… I'm not against to sex. Also the hugging thing is for someone I do not unequivocally know.
18 Comments
May 7th, 2010 at 10:17 am
Your a smart man. Hes a Gronk
Your not crazy your really respectable towards women and yourself.
You are better off telling this woman, she doesn't deserve him.
May 8th, 2010 at 4:27 am
Everyone is different. He is wild. I use to be just like that. But more props to you. To being able to avoid all the temptation
Edit
were you in thailand??
May 9th, 2010 at 1:50 pm
Let me tell you, you're a dream guy..
Most guys these days seem to be only after sex from women.. a bit like your friend :S
I agree that sex is far better when you know the person.. When feelings are involved, its just so much more meaningful…
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you - you're far more normal than your friend who just sleeps around for fun. The most natural thing in the world is to want to be close to a person.
May 10th, 2010 at 1:11 pm
To each his own baby.
May 12th, 2010 at 8:53 pm
Mate, there is a saying…each to their own. Everyone is different and wants different things out of life, but while your still young and single, there is no reason why you can't have fulfilling casual relationships with women.
May 13th, 2010 at 4:06 pm
he is the weirdo - you sound quite normal
May 14th, 2010 at 7:56 am
There is nothing wrong with you. Respect for sex is so rare these days, people are shocked when they find out there are still people like you, people who think with their heads. Why does he feel the need to sleep with so many girls? Obviously he's never came scross anyone special, but it takes a special person to attract another. Keep doing what your doing, in relationships, quality is far better than quantity. I hope you find another girl to hug.
May 15th, 2010 at 2:25 am
You are doing a great thing.
Because what you are searching for is Love; Sex can wait.
So to any person who boasts of sleeping around with 10s of people, let them do it … Because they are going to carry and spread STDs around.
You should remember that:
Love is Sex; but Sex is not Love!
May 17th, 2010 at 5:23 pm
I think your doing great! You don't just follow someone else's way of thinking about sex. You are a responsible adult. Who isn't out there taking chances on spreading disease.And in the process hurting alot of women.Some who may agree to one night stands.But some may have been lead on,to thinking they were going to get a relationship. How many of those women,got pregnant ?
You have control over your mind and body! Your friend hasn't so far suffered any real bad times from his "laid back" attitude!
May 17th, 2010 at 7:24 pm
In my teen years I used to think of sex as a tool. But now that I am older and have kids I look at sex in a totally different way, and I think that it is natural to mature and want more from a relationship than sex. I like that there is someone else out there who can be a sexual person and yet still value companionship and communication more.
May 18th, 2010 at 6:52 pm
I think it is best to never tell anyone how many you've been with. Normally I would say that it was none of their business. Nomatter the number, people will judge you, if you say 22 people in the last two years. some people might think that that is far too many and assume that they are carrying around a rather nasty disease. If you say two some people might think that you're inexperienced. If you really want to say something then try 'I've had two serious relationships'… this means that there's a definite two, but there could be more not so serious relationships…. they dont have to know.
May 18th, 2010 at 10:52 pm
Different people have different takes on sex. If he's really slept with that many women, it's because he sees it as a conquest or a pleasure thing, not as something intimate and special to be shared between people who love each other. He probably doesn't understand where you're coming from, but then again, to me, he seems like the crazy one, not you.
As a girl, I can tell you that, yes, guys do search for that kind of closeness, otherwise, I'd never date anyone (seeing as I'm not promiscuous). I think it's really cool that you were able to be honest with him; you should be comfortable with your decisions. I wish there were more guys who didn't lie when it came to their sex life.
May 20th, 2010 at 12:26 am
today wat you get tomorrow you can:t get. enjoy sex. sex no limitattions,unknown persons, no boundaries. sex — kiss is great intraduction sweet kiss most hotty
May 23rd, 2010 at 4:16 am
hey dont feel bad at all. ur not a male wh0re and u actually commit. u r a unique guy and if u have been a long relationship then u r more mature than the rest of the other guys partying. guys like ur friend never will end up married and if they do, its headed for a divorce i think. be proud that u havent slept with so many women. i mean its disgusting when u read about all this diseases out there. hey im a 20 somethign y.o. woman and never had sex cause like u i wanna know the person first before it gets serious and so far i have met only losers, so im glad i kept myself all this time. i dont like giving a very intimate part of myself to a complete stranger. plus making love with the one u love will last 4ever and u cannot forget it so easily bc its great, its spiritual, mental and all body and soul. having just sex is emptyness…it means nothing. i think ur friend is actually looking for "love" in the wrong way…u need to teach him a thing or 2
May 23rd, 2010 at 6:32 pm
Hi every body have it's own way of thinking and style,I have so many girls in life and enjoyed the fun of life,but like a friend and like a lover,not a sex use only,I like to have sex with people when I know them very well and wants have my full time not a dog sex do and go,so you done what you liked and done good,and second find a girl from bar or street always dangers now a days man.Have a nice day and lot of fun in life without any problems.
May 24th, 2010 at 5:43 am
Well I hope you do ask Jesus to be your savior soon. But besides that you are just more mature than your friend and he just cant understand where you're coming from. You are perfectly normal don't let him sway you at all into beconing like him. Maybe you'll rub off on him as times goes on.
May 26th, 2010 at 10:00 am
its a deep intimate act, making love together with the person you feel most close to.this is how you show your love for each other.
you are doing the right thing
he is just having sex for the sake of it its probably over in 2 seconds and his forgot about it
May 29th, 2010 at 9:51 pm
I think you are both normal. As everyone is different I use "normal" loosely. You shouldn't feel pressured into someone else lifestyle, disease is a very important issue. It sounds like your friend doesn't share the same respect for life as you do. No doubt he has picked up something and most likely passed it on also. But each to their own, you live life your way and let him live life as he chooses.