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WHAT SHOULD I THINK ABOUT THIS PLEASE ANSWER MATURE ANSWERS ONLY?
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crazylady asked:
ok this is going to sounds strange
last week I was snooping(i know the wrong) in boyfriends email account. (We live together) and I found out which he finished an comment on a website for happy guys. he had cinema of his penis posted as a profile. he additionally had a tip email comment where he was articulate about blow jobs with a little person. I comfronted him about it and he pronounced he was embarrased and which he did it since he longed for to know he was voluptuous still (because i dont have him feel sexy) and which hedid it on a happy web site since he felt similar to it wasnt intrigue since hes not happy if he had of finished it where girls would reply which would be cheating. he betrothed to stop and not do it anymore. but i one after an additional to meddler and found which emails were still being checked in both the tip comment and the happy site account. he told me which he betrothed he wasnt checking them. and afterwards yesterday I found an additional form of him on a dating website (woman) he pronounced he didnt have it but it had same passwor
ok this is going to sounds strange
last week I was snooping(i know the wrong) in boyfriends email account. (We live together) and I found out which he finished an comment on a website for happy guys. he had cinema of his penis posted as a profile. he additionally had a tip email comment where he was articulate about blow jobs with a little person. I comfronted him about it and he pronounced he was embarrased and which he did it since he longed for to know he was voluptuous still (because i dont have him feel sexy) and which hedid it on a happy web site since he felt similar to it wasnt intrigue since hes not happy if he had of finished it where girls would reply which would be cheating. he betrothed to stop and not do it anymore. but i one after an additional to meddler and found which emails were still being checked in both the tip comment and the happy site account. he told me which he betrothed he wasnt checking them. and afterwards yesterday I found an additional form of him on a dating website (woman) he pronounced he didnt have it but it had same passwor
50 Comments
April 28th, 2010 at 5:08 am
ditch him hes cheating, please dont be blind
April 28th, 2010 at 8:39 am
He is a sick puppy.
May 1st, 2010 at 7:53 pm
HE MIGHT BE Bi…..ask him
May 1st, 2010 at 10:36 pm
I think you should be rightfully concerned. That's not normal for a completely strait guy
May 3rd, 2010 at 4:00 am
He is a bi-sexual cheater/liar. Check to make sure your shoes are not stretched out. Its better to find out now, than after your married.
May 3rd, 2010 at 9:27 am
hes cheating and he swings both ways
May 6th, 2010 at 1:39 am
Honey he is definately gay or bisexual. No straight man would post pictures on a gay site and reply… either way he should be being faithful to you. What you want to do with him now is your choice alone, but remember that you deserve someone who loves you and only you.
May 6th, 2010 at 1:30 pm
seriously, you dont want that shit in your life… get out while you still can
May 9th, 2010 at 3:56 am
Trust is the only real issue in a relationship, and you don't have that. Are you going to have to snoop (and find things out!) for the next 50 years? I think you should both move on. Just my opinion. Do what your heart tells you to do.
May 11th, 2010 at 2:44 pm
You deserve your worry and bad feelings for being nosey.
Your boyfriend obviously has issues and you've just added to them by going behind his back. maybe he's bi does it matter ? I think you are the one with the trust issues here.
May 15th, 2010 at 2:11 am
The guy is gay, a liar, cheating and won't stop. Move on
May 16th, 2010 at 1:45 am
he's lieing.
talk to him about it again and tell him to be honest.
dont be judgementall and try to understand.
best of luck!
May 18th, 2010 at 9:21 pm
and you have to ask for directions on this one duh
May 20th, 2010 at 9:32 pm
Sounds like your man is stepping out. Of course I know a lot of closet gay guys who go behind their wife's back to have gay meetings.
May 23rd, 2010 at 1:18 am
Dump him. He is gay and cheats on you.
cheers.
May 26th, 2010 at 7:32 am
I would be suspicious at best, give him enough rope to hang himself and then cut him off if he doesn't wise up.
May 27th, 2010 at 12:52 pm
uggghhh… get rid of this guy!
May 27th, 2010 at 9:42 pm
do not believe him he is cheating
May 28th, 2010 at 6:16 pm
I don't know what you should think.
I would move on without him.
May 29th, 2010 at 3:16 pm
Strange man you got there. I would have to guess he is curious about being gay, no doubt about that. He may also be somewhat addicted to online chatting, flirting, etc. Some people can be and creating secret accounts is one sign of that.
May 30th, 2010 at 8:33 pm
ditch him.
gay guys or not, he's not being faithful and keeping up his side of the relationship.
Especially if he's lying to you!
June 3rd, 2010 at 2:47 am
How many more red flags do you need?
Dump the sneaky pervert.
June 5th, 2010 at 2:03 pm
Dump him an get a real man.. This guy sounds like a cheat a loser an no good for you.. Kick his ass to the kerb an find someone who respects you
June 6th, 2010 at 7:23 pm
HE'S GAY! He's gay and cheating. What more proof do you need?
June 8th, 2010 at 7:17 pm
he obviosly is exploring his sexuality and is trying to keep it private and for some people its an adrenaline rush to show people your genitals
June 10th, 2010 at 11:48 am
Obviously he is on his way out of the closet. No straight man would go on a gay website, much less post a picture of their penis. Then he's cheating on you with another woman on line?
Honey, it's time to move on!
June 11th, 2010 at 5:00 am
Honestly it sounds like your guy is bi-curious and that excuse he gave you about he wanted to do it on a gay site because then it won't be considered cheating is absolute BULLS H I T!! AFter you confronted him about it should have been enough for him to stop but him going behind your back with these gay sites and now the women sites are enough to know that he is a cheater, even if just online.
I say let him go because you are wasting your time. You have the signs right in your face…..
Don't be one of those people that can't see the fire because of the smoke
June 12th, 2010 at 8:35 am
Time to say goodbye to this guy.
He told you that you don't make him feel sexy… that right there is a red flag that you gotta go… because look at the great lengths he's going to make himself "feel" sexy again. He's a sociopath. Time to go.
June 14th, 2010 at 11:12 pm
He is gay, and it is cheating, and he won't stop! Get out of the relationship before you really get hurt! ;-(
June 17th, 2010 at 3:55 pm
he's lieing to you
June 17th, 2010 at 5:10 pm
Hmm, sick puppy. Him very bad. Make him go away, move out, F- him anyway. Next thing, he will get AIDS or HERPES and so will you.
June 18th, 2010 at 1:42 am
This is not normal behaviour. I agree with others that you should dump him and find someone worthy of your love.
June 19th, 2010 at 5:55 am
ok - listen up. if you are married its time for some serious counseling.
if you are not married - its time to end the relationship. you will never be man enough for him - and its possible that you are only together as a good cover up for him so he does not have to revela his secret.
if he is gay - you will never feel fullfilled as a women either.
if you are not a women, and you are not gay - then why are you living together.
June 19th, 2010 at 1:40 pm
you wouldnt believe the men who have oral relationships with other men!!! RUN!!!
ask some people about "the downlow" Oprah done a show on it once and it was all about married men or men in a long term relationship who had some sort of sexual relationships with other men!!!
June 21st, 2010 at 12:05 am
That's BS, he's trying to score on that web site….don't let him fool you. He's obviously Bi-sexual, leaning towards full on Gay.
June 23rd, 2010 at 2:58 pm
Sounds like ur man has an identity crisis. Id think about moving on to someone who knows his sexuality.
June 25th, 2010 at 11:15 am
Hon, you know what you need to do. It isn't a question of whether this guy's secretly bi or gay, it's a question of honesty and trust. He's proven he's as dishonest as the day is long and that he cannot be trusted. You don't need a lifetime of putting up with that. Leave him. Give yourself a few months to get over your anger at being betrayed, then casually start dating again. You'll soon realize the wisdom of having dumped this creep.
June 28th, 2010 at 2:41 pm
Ah..Oh….thats what you get for snooping…good job you cant see whats in his head…lol
July 2nd, 2010 at 12:51 am
Wow, I'm sorry dear but this I wouldn't put up with . I could understand the whole gay guy thing because that isn't like cheating… i was going to say the same thing when i read that part…..
but honestly, the dating website.
My sisters husband did that though just to see if he still had what it took to make a girl interested in him. I guess beacuse he's 27 with 4 kids and he just wanted to know. (yeah all those kids are for my sister) but he wasn't going on dates or anything… i think it was an early mid-life crisis.
I would tell him that you think it's cheating now because he's on the dating website and you honestly are starting to not trust him. See what happens after you tel him this!
July 5th, 2010 at 2:03 am
Oh brother……he's bi-sexual or gay!
eoiooooo
I hope you have the finances to move out…..otherwise tell him you can share the apartment….but that both of you will from now on date others.
Let him go………I think he just went to women site to fool you off so you won't know he is gay.
SShhhhh don't tell I told you, but I believe my husband is bi-sexual. I don't like it when I think about it so I try to keep my mind busy…and get it on something else. He is my companion, and I had made my vows. I am going to try to stick it out. And watch him like a hawk!
July 6th, 2010 at 8:30 am
I'm confused…what's the question…is it…should I be worried that he might have a disease….or…does this guy really care or is he just in this for sex…..or…am I so needy I'll stay no matter what this guy does?…pick one…maybe there's still some hope….
July 9th, 2010 at 1:51 am
He is obviously needing some attention, or reassurance. Rather than 'snooping', sit him down and talk. No offence, but if you were attending to his self-esteem, he wouldn't need to be made to feel sexy.
If he say's he enjoy's it, then you need to consider, either joining in, or ending the relationship.
If he still say's he is just doing it to feel sexy, you need to take a step back and see what you could do to help him out so he wouldn't need to go on any site.
Everyone is different, personally, weather it is a dating site for men or women, untill he physically does anything with anyone, he has not cheated. Leave the snooping and fix your relationship. Or the snooping will become an issue, and then there will never be happiness between you.
Don't take this personally, if he wanted to hurt you, then he would have cheated by now. Think of this as a relationship improving dilema, you just need to sort it out together.
P.S, loads of straight guys post pics on all sorts of site's it is just not talked about. Sit in a room full of just guys when they are drinking or whatever, that's when the truth comes out.
Good luck to you both.
July 11th, 2010 at 9:11 pm
What do you mean, "what should you think"?
No need to think about anything- your BF is gay. Or bi.
And he's doing whatever somewhere else, and putting
your health at risk.
You need to think with your mind & not your "heart" or emotions. Forget it. Move on. He's a liar & a cheat &
could be you're just being used.
Snooping isn't wrong- If I'd have snooped during my first marriage I would have found out about the guy's gay secret
life, AND the money he was stealing from me, AND the
ex-girlfriend he never really gave up, AND the drugs.
So you see, snooping is merely self-defense…self-preservation.
You have no way of knowing what goes on in someone else's brain. I am respectful of boundaries but where there's smoke there's fire…you were obviously following a hunch or an intuitive feeling that led you to your discovery.
Don't ever doubt your gut intuition.
July 14th, 2010 at 9:21 pm
Are you a man or woman? I'm guessing your a woman..so I think that you should break up with this guy no matter how much it hurts before he breaks your heart…once he has proven that he is not on these sites anymore fine…but you shouldn't really be snooping around in his stuff! I would absolutely hate that! If he decides he is gay let him be! Don't be angry don't kill him (not literally, you know what I mean) just accept his decision and move on! It's not the end of the world. I don't mean to sound corny, but there are lots more fish in the sea! Confront him again and tell him straight…ARE YOU GAY? This is the only way I'm afraid? You need to know and he needs to tell you sometime or another? The relationship will carry on until you have deeper feelings for him and then when he tells you he's gay the whole thing will go tipsy-turvy (or whatever you say!) so stop the whole thing and ask him the simple question! I definitely would do this in your shoes!
July 18th, 2010 at 6:29 am
End it now.
If you don't end it now, it (your relationship) will die a slow death.
You should not have been snooping and reading his emails.
He is either bi or he is gay.
July 19th, 2010 at 4:28 am
WLL I'M NOT THE SHARPEST HOOK IN THE TACKLEBOX, BUT IT SOUNDS TO ME LIKE HE IS A LIAR. IT SOUNDS LIKE HE IS CHEATING ON YOU. DON'T LET HIM USE YOU. I HATE THIS 4 U. IF MY WIFE WAS TO CHEAT ON ME I'D RATHER HER TO DO IT W/ THE OPPOSITE SEX & NOT THE SAME SEX. YOU DEFINITELY DON'T WANT TO GET HITCHED TO THIS GUY. 'CAUSE IT WOULD ONLY GET WORSE. WE'VE BEEN MARRIED FOR 23 YEARS. GOOD LUCK
July 22nd, 2010 at 4:11 pm
OK. I am being completely honest… He is not for you. No REAL man would look to another man to make him feel sexy, if he was dating a girl. I think he is seriously confused, and in the end, you will look like a fool. You need to drop him like a bad habit, and find someone who truly appreciates you.
July 22nd, 2010 at 11:49 pm
Sounds like he's bi. Either way; doesn't matter if he's on a site targetting men or women, it's still deceitful, and he's lying about it. I would leave him. In your case doesn't matter if he's hanging out with guys or girls he's already proven that he can't be trusted. Without trust, how do you build on a relationship? Also straight men, wouldn't even THINK of going on a gay site and post a profile and especially discuss sexual topics, let alone do it. Open your eyes, it's better to learn this now then later on down the road
July 24th, 2010 at 9:54 am
I would be more mad at the lieing. If he didn't think he was doing anything wrong then he shouldn' t feel like he should have to hide it.
July 25th, 2010 at 3:00 am
He's just curious. He's playing a game. He's not neccesarily gay or bi. Maybe he has some bi fantasies that are actually quite normal in men and women. It's the internet it's made it easy to role-play. Perhaps you guys could log on together and "play" with a few guys. Don't listen to the masses on this one he's a normal male..regardless of what the homophobes may say.