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DATING FOR 8 MONTHS, IS IT OVER?
ByDiagem asked:
My beloved and I have been together for 8 months, and right divided we have been starting to have problems. He says he loves me and he wants me to be the lady he marries, but newly all we do is argue. He says I cry as well most and I need to mature. I think he gets dissapoint as well often. My mother told me I should have myself reduction accessible and he will appriciate me more, and my friends contend we should take a small time apart. I love him, he says he doesn't wish to mangle up but I do not assimilate because he is pulling me away. I'm confused, advice?
Im 19, he's a small older. He is going by a lot in his life, and I have attempted to be there and await him by it all, that creates the approach he's behaving 10x worse. thx, your recommendation is unequivocally helpful.
My beloved and I have been together for 8 months, and right divided we have been starting to have problems. He says he loves me and he wants me to be the lady he marries, but newly all we do is argue. He says I cry as well most and I need to mature. I think he gets dissapoint as well often. My mother told me I should have myself reduction accessible and he will appriciate me more, and my friends contend we should take a small time apart. I love him, he says he doesn't wish to mangle up but I do not assimilate because he is pulling me away. I'm confused, advice?
Im 19, he's a small older. He is going by a lot in his life, and I have attempted to be there and await him by it all, that creates the approach he's behaving 10x worse. thx, your recommendation is unequivocally helpful.
2 Comments
April 18th, 2010 at 5:32 pm
You need to look at whats causing the problems in your relationship. Not just from your view but from his as well and try to understand from where hes coming from. If he says you cry too much so does it mean that you are overly emotional? because if you are trust me being overly emotional and naggain and complaining is a huuuggeee turnoff for guys. I'm not saying that thats the way you are but just trying to give some advice. And what your mom and friends say are both true. Creating space between you too for a little while can have some advantages to your relationship. You know that saying, absense makes the heart grow fonder
April 20th, 2010 at 1:57 pm
How old are you? I definitely understand what you're saying, and the confusion in hearing "I love you" and some sort of anger, in the same sentence or conversation…
Does he seem like he doesn't have time for you, as well? When he's upset, is he upset at you, or upset in general?
Making yourself less available could send the wrong message (that you don't actually love him anymore), but if he's loosing interest, or thinking he can treat you badly without consequence, it might be a good move to make.
There are a million different things that the cause could be, but having been on the opposite side of the fence, I can say personally, I tried to make too many people happy, and let my own girlfriend down a lot because I didn't have time for her… I'm really regretting that now.
She's young, I've even told her before to be more mature…but when all is said and done, I love her more than this world, and I would never want to let her go. She's everything to me. If he truly cares for you he needs a wake up call to realize things need to change.
He needs to be more sensitive to you, instead of telling you to stop crying, you might just need to look at why he's upset and support him in that area, BUT, I don't know your exact situation so I may be waaay off base…
Good luck, I hope that helps a little bit.