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I HAVE MET A WOMAN ON-LINE. NEED ADULT ADVICE?
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Bugsy Groucho asked:
I have been analogous with a Russian lady I met on a dating site. We have been removing along really well inside of the proportions of the created word. She sent me cinema of herself and she is beautiful; looks similar to a grown up Lindsey Lohan. She is thirty and I am … well … comparison than thirty.
My subject is should I be endangered which she is usually meddlesome in me as a sheet to the States? She has not sincerely referred to this, only talks about "visiting me".
I am not foolish or naive. I know this arrange of thing happens and I am being discreet about creation promises. But the whinging suspicion in my mind is this could be something smashing and I would hatred to skip out.
Any critical recommendation is welcome.
I have been analogous with a Russian lady I met on a dating site. We have been removing along really well inside of the proportions of the created word. She sent me cinema of herself and she is beautiful; looks similar to a grown up Lindsey Lohan. She is thirty and I am … well … comparison than thirty.
My subject is should I be endangered which she is usually meddlesome in me as a sheet to the States? She has not sincerely referred to this, only talks about "visiting me".
I am not foolish or naive. I know this arrange of thing happens and I am being discreet about creation promises. But the whinging suspicion in my mind is this could be something smashing and I would hatred to skip out.
Any critical recommendation is welcome.
7 Comments
January 27th, 2010 at 8:51 am
Is the picture really her…? o.0
January 29th, 2010 at 8:34 am
I guess you will have to seriously think how much you trust this woman. It's not like anyone here can say she will or wont. Just like anyone you meet on the internet it's a risk. How long have you known her anyway? If I were in your shoes I would wait a good amount of time and really get to know her. Even call her.
January 29th, 2010 at 7:02 pm
Well if it doesnt feel right then its probably not right, i would go with your gut feeling on this..Mabye wait awhile just to make sure she isnt using you for a ticket to the states..
February 1st, 2010 at 11:11 pm
A lot of people try to get to the states by a love interest. It is possible that its legit but in most cases no likely. If she wants to come visit you have her pay for her own ticket. If she is asking you for money that means big trouble.
February 3rd, 2010 at 5:52 pm
It won't do any harm to have her visit, can be arranged (temp visa).
I watched a programme about this very subject. The advice they dished out was if a Russian girl starts asking for presents Ie jewelry clothes or cash etc with a few days to a week of being in States then ditch her.
Other than that you have to trust your instinct. You have nothing to lose. She can only get what money you wish to give her.
If you don't give her cash and that is her motivation then she will probably not see you again. either way you can't lose.
Go for it. Russian women are laid back.
February 5th, 2010 at 9:18 am
You are right to be cautious. From the standpoint of a Russian woman it would seem that the main reason for putting yourself on an English-speaking U.S. connected dating site (as opposed to one in Russian) would be to meet U.S. men to get to come to this country. With that concern, you have some options. You can fly to Europe and meet her for a vacation together there and see how it goes. You can invite her to the U.S. as a tourist and not sign anything yourself. You could go to Russia (although that seems like a lot less fun, it might be the most informative approach.)
Beyond that, check out whether she's being real. If she can use a webcam, ask to see her. If not, send her something and ask for pictures of her wearing it. If what you are risking is just an airline ticket and not getting entangled with Immigration, then maybe a visit is good idea. Just continue to be "NOT stupid or naive."
Good luck.
February 5th, 2010 at 6:39 pm
A picture is worth a thousand words in you case a thousand dollars. If this woman wants to come to the US by all means let her. Tell her you will show her a good time when she arrives. Make reservations for her at a local Hotel. If she giving you these overtly suggestions take her up on it. I would suggest that you let her pay her on way. Dont be her ticket to get here. I saw a TV show where these women in different countries place ads for US men(mail order brides)If this woman is int rested in you let her pay her own way. Then on her next trip over you pay. I wouldnt spend money on plane ticket that easy. How many other men is she talking to on line in order to get to the US? You stated that you were a little older hopefully your wiser also. There are plenty of women right here in the old US that would love the attention and affections of a older man. I am sure it wouldnt cost you as much. If you do decide to bring her here do a criminal background check on this person. I learned that all good things sometimes are what they appear to be. I am sure she is telling you what you want to hear just to get in the US. Give this some more thought.