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ADULT MATURE ANSWERS ONLY PLEASE, I NEED ADVICE ABOUT LOVE?
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I am twenty-six and the man Ive been with is 33. Weve been dating for over 6 months now, and all is fabulous. We get along great, we outlay roughly each free impulse we have together. We've even joked which my section is right away fundamentally a unequivocally costly storage section given I only stay at his place all the time. So what is the problem? He's never pronounced those 3 small words. He's roughly slipped up a couple of times in implying love, but he regularly catches himself. Should I be concerned? I mean, the not a horribly prolonged relationship, and the going so well I dont unequivocally wish to force the matter. He shows love constantly, only by all the small things he does for me, but he only wouldnt contend it. Any advice?
I am twenty-six and the man Ive been with is 33. Weve been dating for over 6 months now, and all is fabulous. We get along great, we outlay roughly each free impulse we have together. We've even joked which my section is right away fundamentally a unequivocally costly storage section given I only stay at his place all the time. So what is the problem? He's never pronounced those 3 small words. He's roughly slipped up a couple of times in implying love, but he regularly catches himself. Should I be concerned? I mean, the not a horribly prolonged relationship, and the going so well I dont unequivocally wish to force the matter. He shows love constantly, only by all the small things he does for me, but he only wouldnt contend it. Any advice?
7 Comments
January 13th, 2010 at 2:33 pm
Yeah don't force it. It will happen in due time. Without knowing his past, he may not want to rush into saying it and potentially ruin a good thing. If you love him you can give him the message in a note or card with an I (heart symbol) you. He'll get more comfortable eventually and will say it. Good luck!
January 14th, 2010 at 7:47 am
He's afraid to ruin the relationship, I guess if he finds out you feel the same way then he'll open up and say it but for now he's just afraid.
January 15th, 2010 at 7:49 pm
Actions speak louder than words. mabey there is a reason he can not say those words, but if the actions are there, be patient. He will eventually say it, or you will find out why he can't. Besides, even if he never can say it, what would you rather have - empty words, or actions that show you?
January 16th, 2010 at 10:30 pm
Well you are completely on the right track. He probably really does love you.
Some men have no problem saying "I love you," but to others, those three little words can be very difficult to say even if it's really true. But either way, men are much better at SHOWING their love than saying it… since you believe he has been showing love, then he probably does.
Also, I would much rather have a guy show me he loves me all the time and hardly ever say it than a guy who says it all the time but his actions don't back up his words.
So just sit tight - 6 months isn't a very long time - and it will eventually happen. Don't force it. Who knows? Maybe he's just waiting for the right moment to say it… and it will be all the more special.
January 19th, 2010 at 7:50 pm
The old saying goes," Actions speaks louder than words!!!"
Be happy with what you got and enjoy it………..Just hearing someone say that does not make it true but how they treat you does…………Their sure is way more worse problems that you could be having in this relationship but if this is all you have to be concerned about then count yourself lucky and know that you would rather hear him say it WHEN he feels like it so that it will genuinely be from his heart rather than feel pressured into it and really have little meaning behind it!!!
January 21st, 2010 at 5:39 pm
the older men get and remain single, the more you should watch out for them. older guys like younger women first and formost for their sexual attraction, and then for their personalities. there may be a reason this guy is 33 and still looking and it may be because he plans to move on to the next girl he findsin her twenties after he moves on from you. i could of course be totally wrong, but be careful. ask him about it.
January 22nd, 2010 at 11:38 pm
Accept his actions as love and allow him more time to speak the words. Be happy that "I love you" doesn't spill from his lips so easily because it means he thinks through relationships and doesn't fall in and out of love so easily. What about those that can say it with no problem and not meaning it just to get what they want.