Jan
07
SHOULD I TAKE A CHANCE AT HEARTBREAK?
ByZero asked:
I'm nineteen y/o bisexual male. I'm grown up for my age b/c I was forced to grow up fast. I live alone, compensate all my own bills, am in college. I've regularly been a loner, never unequivocally been close to anyone. Never dated, never been kissed. A couple of days ago, I met this guy. He is twenty-nine and a really honeyed and singular person. He is really dedicated to his job, rather critical and additionally rather of a loner b/c he is "unusual" (not a bad thing, but sealed disposed ppl think he's kinda weird.) Ever given I met him, I can't stop meditative of him. I only wish to be around him all the time! My crony says I should ask him out, but I do not know if a twenty-nine y/o would even cruise dating me. Or if he's singular or even in to my type. Is it value the risk? How can I find out if he's accessible or his sort but being as well obvious? I'm scared!
I'm nineteen y/o bisexual male. I'm grown up for my age b/c I was forced to grow up fast. I live alone, compensate all my own bills, am in college. I've regularly been a loner, never unequivocally been close to anyone. Never dated, never been kissed. A couple of days ago, I met this guy. He is twenty-nine and a really honeyed and singular person. He is really dedicated to his job, rather critical and additionally rather of a loner b/c he is "unusual" (not a bad thing, but sealed disposed ppl think he's kinda weird.) Ever given I met him, I can't stop meditative of him. I only wish to be around him all the time! My crony says I should ask him out, but I do not know if a twenty-nine y/o would even cruise dating me. Or if he's singular or even in to my type. Is it value the risk? How can I find out if he's accessible or his sort but being as well obvious? I'm scared!
5 Comments
January 8th, 2010 at 7:47 pm
Don't be scared. Have more confidence in yourself. You are a self supporting young man and sounds like you make it just fine. So, take the next step. Call him and ask him out. What have you got to lose? You've just met him recently, so it won't be that much of a heartbreak if he says no. Go for it. You'll never know until you try. Good luck
January 11th, 2010 at 2:10 pm
You can do this. take every chance on love x
January 14th, 2010 at 9:36 pm
If you never take a chance at heartbreak, how will you ever be able to find happiness in a relationship?
After all, it wouldnt really be heartbreak since you aren't dating, just a let down, a disappointment. You'll never know if he'd go out with you unless you ask him.
January 16th, 2010 at 10:57 pm
I'd ask him out.
But get to know him before falling in love.
January 18th, 2010 at 6:57 pm
Most human beings like to have friends. Ask him to do something with you — have lunch, visit a museum or concert or bookstore or game, take a walk or a drive, and just get to know him.
Talk to him.
Find out his interests, hobbies, what he values in life.
Through that conversation, you are likely to find out more about him.
By the way, if he ends up not being into you because he doesn't think the chemistry is right, that is not a rejection and does not have to be heartbreaking. One guy told me I was not his type because I am not fat enough! He is a chubby chaser and I am not his type! That did not offend or hurt me — we were just not the right match.
And be positive. This is not a "chance at heartbreak". This is a chance for love! =)
By the way, a 29 year old might well love to date a 19 year old. Maybe yes, maybe no…but it is worth a try!