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MATURE, LONG MARRIED FOLKS PLEASE HOW CAN I REDUCE CLUTTER IN THE HOUSE THAT BELONGS TO HUBBY?
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BonesofaTeacher asked:
He does not wish me relocating or throwing out his stuff. He does not similar to me asking him about it. He tends to fill up all accessible surfaces with junk. I have no management over the junk (of march he tends to keep a lot of things). I have in jeopardy to put it all in a box and he got miffed. How can i declutter the residence of his things but deleterious the attribute or vitriolic him? I love him and am peaceful to put up with the confusion if i have to. Maybe government of stipulations [if not finished by X date i will take Y action]. Suggestions?
He does not wish me relocating or throwing out his stuff. He does not similar to me asking him about it. He tends to fill up all accessible surfaces with junk. I have no management over the junk (of march he tends to keep a lot of things). I have in jeopardy to put it all in a box and he got miffed. How can i declutter the residence of his things but deleterious the attribute or vitriolic him? I love him and am peaceful to put up with the confusion if i have to. Maybe government of stipulations [if not finished by X date i will take Y action]. Suggestions?
5 Comments
November 15th, 2009 at 9:04 am
My dad did that until my mom showed him he could get money for it by putting the junk on Ebay. If you don't need money, ask to put it in storage. The way my dad got over it was the stuff was placed in storage, then years later he realized he never needed it, hadn't gone to check on it, so he threw it all away.
November 16th, 2009 at 2:54 am
All I can say is that the house belongs to both of you, and if you don't want to look like a packrat, then you don't have to. Give him the statue of limitations..let him know you're serious. Nag him more and more until he agrees to clean it up. (I'm a neat freak and recently had to deal with this myself.)
November 16th, 2009 at 2:27 pm
Sounds like he needs a room of his own that all his stuff goes into.
I don't know your house but you might have to convert a smaller room or add a small room addition.
I have a room that is all mine, just as I enter the house from the garage, and it is floor to ceiling cubby holes and bins that I can dump m pockets and stuff into. It is off limits to the whole household. It is only 8 by 10 but it keeps the other 3000 feet free of my stuff.
November 17th, 2009 at 8:05 am
A relationship is about give and take. It is also about sharing and caring about each other. In this case, he needs to realize that this junk is causing a problem with the relationship and that it is time for some give and take. I think that it works best when a guy has a room or two in a house that are his that he can have his junk but that the rest of the house needs to be for the family. He also needs to realize that not every bit of his junk is really that important. If it was really important then he would find a way to display it or use it. The key is to get him to agree to small steps like where his stuff can and can't be and then work on determining how what seems like junk can be actually used or displayed to make it as important as he thinks it is.
November 20th, 2009 at 2:07 am
Chuck him and the clutter out and I'll move in.