I NEED ADVICE - ABOUT DATING A WOMAN WHO IS 40?
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Hi,
I have well known this lady in a internal salsa dancing stage for 3 years now. I used to think she was twenty-seven years old tops. I think she was dating behind afterwards and is right divided singular so we cling to out a lot when I see her out dancing. I unequivocally similar to her and wish a attribute with her but I am a small concerned. She is roughly 41 years old. I'm somewhat younger than her. She does not demeanour over thirty and unequivocally is one of the couple of many great seeking people I have ever met. She additionally seems great but I have a feeling she has antiquated a small 'bad boys' in the past and is right divided giving me a chance.
She functions as a deputy for a healing apparatus association and goes divided on commercial operation trips for days at a time. I feel partial of her offered capability is her great looks. That bothers me a small bit.
My questions are: 1) Do comparison women suffer a full of health sex hold up even after they go by menopause? 2) Is it ok for me to be endangered about her work? I meant she has to perform her clients on these trips (dinners, etc.) and I would not be gentle with that. I in the future would wish her to do something else since I would not feel similar to a great provider and carrying to have her work in which kind of work situation.
Any grown up recommendation would be really most appreciated!
3 Comments
October 5th, 2009 at 10:05 pm
She's not really menapausal right now but as for sex, women peak sexually between the ages of 36 - 40. She might be enjoying a healthy sex life, if that's what she wants and she's lucky. As for your idea of not wanting her to do what she does because you have certain insecurities, if I were you, I'd keep that to myself and get over it. You can't expect to control her and dictate what she should or should not do. You aren't even in a relationship with her yet and you're already coming off as controlling. Get a grip on yourself. You might be too immature for her. Trust. ';-()
October 7th, 2009 at 3:42 am
Your first question. Yes, older women enjoy sex even after they have gone through menopause ( read the book 'defying age ' by Dr Miriam Stoppard ).
Second question: What is your ultimate intention? Do you want to marry her? If not, simply leave her alone. If yes, then better talk to her ( at an opportune moment ) and try to express your concern tactfully. But remember one thing. You have to have full faith in the woman you are going to marry, otherwise your marriage will not be a success. So if she says she has to give her clients dinners etc ( but nothing beyond that ) you have to accept it and never question her again on this topic. And never force her to change her job if she does not want to.
October 8th, 2009 at 8:00 am
Find someone else. The additional information you provided set off all sorts of red flags for me.
When you mention so many times that she looks younger than she really is, the age difference between you appears to be a major problem for you.
Why do you care who she dated in the past? That is in the past and is none of your business.
She has the right to choose whatever career she wants. No woman should ever be expected to depend on a man to take care of her nor to allow him to tell her what occupation is right for her.
Your stated reasons for being uncomfortable with her entertaining clients and her method for making sales are pretty archaic. What do you really believe she does to entertain her clients? What do you mean by (dinner, etc.)?
Women can have a healthy sex life at any age. Even at 70 (gasp)! Most women experience a better sex life after menopause because they don't have to worry about getting pregnant.
I hope this has answered your questions and given you some food for thought.