WHAT IS A GIRLFRIEND IN THE YEAR 2008?
ByReasons for being in Marriage/Divorce is given you all have been a bit some-more grown up on these subjects.
So there is this chairman which I met, and over a duration of time she is fundamentally here all the time (or was). For all complete purposes she outlayed any time divided from work with me. She called all the time. She asked what we have been carrying for dinner. She talked about relocating in but given I'm not long ago divorced and have kids, she pronounced it was 'on me' for those decisions. I of march do not wish to move as well fast. She additionally happens to watch my kids given I work from my house… so she is the nanny as well (paid employee). I'm realizing which this is sounding similar to a soap opera.
The alternative night, I asked her how she would feel about me revelation my daughters about us. Then she says, what is there to discuss it we have been not BF/GF yet.
So I'm fundamentally stunned.. thankfully this was over a content summary at the time so she couldn't see the tear.
Ok, so here is the kicker…. and I am wondering if this is only an age thing difficult with the actuality which I have not antiquated in damn nearby a decade. I am 34 and she is 22.
How only does it work out which a chairman can outlay any accessible waking impulse with you, nap in your bed, hug on the sofa, have dishes together, emporium for groceries similar to an old tied together couple, speak all the time, love your kids, giggle until you cry, travel in a doorway observant sugar I'm home, refers to your residence as hers, and has sex with you and NOT be a girlfriend?
Really people, I'll be the initial chairman to confess when I'm wrong.. but this I only do not understand. I'm sincerely sure which things have been over, but I unequivocally need to know for my own reason what others would think if they were in my shoes. I harm similar to ruin but I do not wish to follow this lady even yet I think she is value the chase… It was a guarantee which I done to myself when I went by my divorce.
Yeah, I'm starting to assimilate a lot more. I'm not a infrequent person. Thanks for the input….
Maybe age does matter, eh?
Tks Pure. Always similar to which honesty.
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12 Comments
July 2nd, 2009 at 2:09 pm
Sorry to say t but she does not feel what you feel. You seem like a nice person but I would just let her be, if you're just a friend don't you wonder how many other friends like you she has. She sounds like a user. Good luck
July 5th, 2009 at 7:05 pm
It sounds like she just wanst something casual.
Which is fine for some people, but it also sounds like u want something more than she can give.
July 8th, 2009 at 5:42 am
Most females her around her age and younger have casual sex without a relationship. She likes you but you like her more. If you're looking for a girlfriend you need to look for a older female. This female might be the one but you don't need to rush it.
July 9th, 2009 at 11:11 am
just ask her 'will you be my gf' or 'shall we make it official then nd be gf/bf' you will then know where you stand without having to do 'the chase' good luck
July 12th, 2009 at 7:32 am
I will be honest with you…
She sounds very young and immature.
Alot of twenty-two year olds do not always know what they want at this age. And a divorced man with children is alot to take on.
Please - be very cautious about your expectations because you have already been through enough.
July 12th, 2009 at 7:56 am
You were not wrong here behavior suggests she was the gf.However as you said this is 2008 maybe something new is going .If I was doing any of the above you would be my man.Maybe it just me.Any way when the right one comes along she will appreiciate any and all you do .Take care sweetie
July 12th, 2009 at 8:54 pm
I stopped reading when u said she was 22. Hun she is nowhere old enough for a relationship, not serious anyways!! U don't wanna play around w/ little girls like that. Age does not matter but maturity does and I'm sry but w/ how u spoke of her she is not and will not be anywhere near mature enough for a relationship that involves kids!
U gotta becareful of that rebound relationship. Don't be so quick to put ur heart out there again cuz in the end it will be destroyed again. Take time for u and u alone… leave others out of the mix til u decide who it is that u are!
July 13th, 2009 at 12:32 am
its nice to see you back again… i am sure it was definately an age thing… she has one view of how things should be and when you told her that you werent ready for her to move in, she took it as a put down i think… she's not ready to be the kind of woman you need as a girlfriend, friend to your kids, or even prospective step mom… she is simply not ready…
me and carmine have been together over a year.. i didnt fully meet his daughters till we had been seeing each other for about 3 months and were sure it was going to last… even still, i was reffered to as "dads best friend." and soon, i became the girls best friend.. we only recently, i'd say in the past 2 months maybe, started giving little pecks on the lips in front of them, and having dinner together all the time and being reffered to as boyfriend and girlfriend.. kids dont really understand what that entails.. they know he and i stay together overnight when the kids are not with him, but when they are, he stays at his parents with them.. i have dinner and then go home… even though its been a year, and 2 years since the kids have not lived with their mom and dad as a whole, its just too soon for that kind of transition.. and if the kids didnt like me, i would have been gone in a flash… i wish to god he would move in with me, as i have to be alone the nights he has them, but i love him and am willing to sacrifice what i have to, knowing that someday, things will be right…
your girl may have just been looking for something different.. hell, i dont know, cause if i was doing all those things, and i had met your kids, i'll be damned if i'm gonna play around.. but she's a kid… and she's a woman.. we dont know what we want at that age… maybe it was her way of getting out… maybe she wasnt ready to be anyones mom, or even best friend.. who knows… dont chase her, find another bird.. my man and i are 8 years apart, but i was 26 and divorced when i met him, so theres a bit of a difference.. some people just ahve more life experience.. i hate to say it, but you may want to look for another divorcee - at least then you will have something in common that each of you understands.. good luck, hun!!!
July 15th, 2009 at 7:14 am
You know the famous bit of advise from sex and the city "He is just not that into you" well in my opinion it is kind of like that, just reversed. She is just 22 years old and enjoying the attention. I think in her eyes she just wants to keep it simple.
July 15th, 2009 at 7:09 pm
a girlfriend is someone you take out have fun with and me and my partner i was 23 and he was 33 and its the longest relationship ive ever had so to me age dosnt matter were been together for 12 years yer we have our ups and down but at the end of the day you stay with the one who makes you laugh makes you happy cheers good luck as for all the things you want to know just ask her what she wants i did the way i seen things is what do i have to loose if you dont take chances in life you live with regret
July 18th, 2009 at 7:35 pm
My guess is that she feels that you are bf/gf, but since you have not actually asked her she doesn't want to assume anything. Maybe she made that comment to get you to ask her. So if you like her, ask her already!!!
July 22nd, 2009 at 2:52 am
Sorry bro, been really slammed lately.
Same thing happened to me. The fact of the matter is that you are still screwed up over your split. Your a religious guy, who is laid back and old school. Im not, but can appreciate someone like that.
She is way to young to have any real expectation of a serious relationship. And you are in no position to dive back into the "confort zone" of a serious relationship. Trust me on that one.
Take a lighter stance towards the issue. And quite frankly get a little selfish. Revel in the fact that you have a fun, happy relationship with someone, and dont get so wrapped up in the relationship.
A marriage breaking up takes a long time to get over. In time you will meet someone on the same level as you, and ready to get farther along. For now have fun, and lay low.
Hit it brother, being separated and divorced is a license to steal.